Grief and Loss Support

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Grief is the normal and natural human response to having loved and lost. At one time or another, everyone experiences loss and grief. The specific expressions vary from person to person and according to the felt impact of the loss.

When experienced for the first time, grief can be disorienting because it can cause changes in our thinking and behavior for a period of time. Grief is not a mental illness, but is instead the normal process of human response to loving and losing. It can involve many feelings and phases until one reaches a place of ultimate acceptance of a loss. But even when one fully accepts a loss, grief may not fully go away. A more realistic goal may be coming to a place of relative peace where the loss takes on a new meaning. But ongoing support may still be needed.

For many people, the wisdom of religious, spiritual, and humanistic traditions can offer comfort in facing life’s losses and grief. These traditions hold within them wisdom from across times and places for responding to the losses of life. Such responses include worship, prayer, and meditation; reading scriptures and texts; caring conversations with spiritual or humanistic leaders; rituals such as wakes, shiva, funerals, memorial services, vigils, and shrines; creating writing, artwork, and music; and many other ways people respond to loss and process grief.

The Emory University Office of Spiritual and Religious Life (OSRL) is a resource available for Emory students, faculty, and staff members for support in times of loss and grief. We offer opportunities for pastoral care and conversation; support with planning memorial services and vigils; and referrals to other resources to assist the community with grieving and healing.

Pastoral Care

All of the chaplains in OSRL are available for pastoral care, which is a form of confidential care and counseling provided by spiritual and humanistic leaders. As practiced by OSRL, it is offered to Emory students, faculty, and staff members of all faiths and no faith, and it makes no assumptions about a person’s faith or practice. It can be as simple as a listening ear for emotional and existential support, or it can involve exploring beliefs, teachings, scriptures, and rituals. For an appointment, please contact the chaplains directly at: http://www.religiouslife.emory.edu/about_us/OSRL%20Staff.html

Memorial Services

Emory University OSRL is honored to assist loved ones, friends, and colleagues in celebrating the lives of Emory students, faculty, and staff members. Such memorial services are generally distinct from and take place after family funerals, and they provide an opportunity for the campus community to honor a loss. These services can be religious in nature or more spiritual or humanistic.

Cannon Chapel is the preferred location for campus memorial services, and it offers many benefits in terms of logistics, music, equipment, etc. Charges are borne by the requesting party, School, or department, with OSRL helping to coordinate the service planning and leadership, music on piano or organ, AV support, greeters, publicity, a flower arrangement, printed programs, and a reception if desired.

For more information, please contact one of the chaplains: http://www.religiouslife.emory.edu/about_us/OSRL%20Staff.html. OSRL can also help to provide referrals for alumni, families, and friends of the university, whether near or far.

Vigils

From time to time, it may be appropriate to mark a loss or tragedy on campus or in the wider community with a vigil. Emory OSRL’s chaplains are available to support Emory students, faculty, and staff members with planning vigils--which can be religious, spiritual, interfaith, and/or humanistic.

OSRL can provide planning support, coordination, AV support, publicity, access to candles and supplies, support with transmitting charitable donations, etc. For more information, please contact one of the chaplains: http://www.religiouslife.emory.edu/about_us/OSRL%20Staff.html.

Religious Life Affiliates

Many of Emory OSRL’s Religious Life Affiliates are clergy and spiritual leaders in different communities and can also offer pastoral care and support with memorial services and vigils: http://www.religiouslife.emory.edu/about_us/campus_ministers.html

Other Emory Resources

Emory offers other excellent resources for secular counseling. Emory students can access Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), and Emory faculty and staff can access the Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP). The staff in Emory Campus Life Belonging, Community and Justice are also excellent resources for students for listening and support.

Other Resources

There are many valuable resources on grief and healing. One example is the Center for Loss and Life Transition (https://www.centerforloss.com), which offers resources such as: “A Mourning Person's Bill of Rights.” Please contact a chaplain or religious life affiliate for additional resources.

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Emory Counseling and Psychological Services - http://counseling.emory.edu/index.html

  • Clinical Services pages/Groups and Workshops
    • “Support Groups” section lists a Grief and Loss group as an example of their support groups that “bring together students who have similar experiences or concerns; the focus is on emotional support and encouragement.”
    • Grief & Loss Support listed as a Support Group currently being offered
  • About Us/Emergency and Crisis Response
    • Crisis Triage Appointments are available Monday–Friday, 8:30-3:30, by walking in to CAPS. You can also call CAPS at 404-727-7450 for consultation by phone.
    • Emory Healthcare psychiatrist-on-call: 404-778-5000 (available after hours or weekends)

Video - Grief and Loss: Helping in the Moment

https://youtu.be/Rkod3n-ottM

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

https://afsp.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Mental-Health-Talking-Points-v2.pdf

American Psychological Association 

https://www.apa.org/news/apa/2020/04/grief-covid-19

https://www.apa.org/topics/grief

Faces of Caring

https://www.nhpco.org/faces-of-caring/ 

Grief, Loss, and Bereavement Support Groups

https://www.verywellhealth.com/grief-loss-bereavement-support-groups-1132533

Grief Anonymous

https://griefanonymous.com/

Grief Share

https://www.griefshare.org/

 

Articles and thought-pieces 

Imagining America APPS: Weaving Our We (Kindness during Covid)

https://weavingourwe.wordpress.com/

Bringing out the Best in People (Psychology of caring for others)

https://thecorrespondent.com/350/dont-forget-disasters-and-crises-bring-out-the-best-in-people/46307515100-1b82207d

The Collective Psychology of Coronavirus

https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/transformation/collective-psychology-coronavirus/

Human Behavior and Coronavirus

https://theconversation.com/coronavirus-why-changing-human-behaviour-is-the-best-defence-in-tackling-the-virus-134500#Echobox=1585292919

Seattle and Kindness in Covid

https://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/coronavirus-sparks-an-epidemic-of-people-helping-people-in-seattle/?

Small business support one another in Seattle

https://www.seattletimes.com/business/local-business/seattle-small-business-owners-rally-to-support-one-another-through-coronavirus-crisis/?

What Can Climate Change Grief Teach Us about Coronavirus Grief?

https://newrepublic.com/article/157059/climate-grief-taught-coronavirus

Coronavirus Grief

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/03/26/820304899/coronavirus-has-upended-our-world-its-ok-to-grieve?

A Moment for Sorrow

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/03/the-grieving-world/609013/

My Grieving Sick City

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/16/opinion/coronavirus-new-york.html

 

Additional Online Support and Resources

The Eluna Network: https://elunanetwork.org/

Modern Loss: https://modernloss.com/

What's Your Grief? Resource Page:  www.whatsyourgrief.com

Motherless Daughters: http://www.motherlessdaughtersretreats.com/

Grief Healing: www.griefhealing.com

Compassionate Friends: https://www.compassionatefriends.org/

Grief.com:  www.grief.com

Loss of a Child Compassionate Friends: www.compassionatefriends.org

The Center for Complicated Grief: https://complicatedgrief.columbia.edu/

Soaring Spirits International: https://soaringspirits.org/

OnBeing: A Care Package for Uncertain times - https://onbeing.org/starting-points/a-care-package-for-uncertain-times/

Buddhist Teachings, Wisdom, and Practices for the Coronavirus Era - https://www.lionsroar.com/buddhist-teachings-wisdom-and-practices-for-the-coronavirus-era/ 

COVID Grief Network for Young Adults (20’s and 30’s) - https://www.covidgriefnetwork.org/

 

Webinars, Podcasts, and Clinics

Loss and Grief During the Coronavirus Pandemic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVmQdQTJHW4&feature=youtu.be

Covid-19 and Complicated Grief:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrYPvZPiTg0&feature=youtu.be

Covid Calm: Zoom Sessions on Stress Management for Healthcare Professionals

https://www.covidcalm.org/

Where’s the Grief?

https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/wheres-the-grief

 

Apps for iPhone and Android

Grief Steps for Parents:

Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/griefsteps-for-parents/id1277751812

Good Grief Chat and Messaging:

Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/good-grief-chat-messaging/id1314587192

Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.goodgriefworks.goodgrief&hl=en_US

Actively Moving Forward:

Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/actively-moving-forward-amf/id1491832811?ls=1

 

Local Support Groups

GriefShare: Grief Recovery Support Groups - www.griefshare.org

 

Books

Someone Died… Now What?

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=someone+died+now+what+by+corrie+sirota&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss

It’s Okay that You’re Not Okay: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Does Not Understand

https://www.amazon.com/Its-That-Youre-Not-Understand/dp/1622039076

On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through Five Stages of Loss

https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Grieving-Finding-Meaning-Through-ebook/dp/B000FCKB02

 

Resources for Children

National Alliance for Grieving Children: How to Help a Grieving Child

https://childrengrieve.org/resources/10-ways-to-help-a-grieving-child

National Alliance for Grieving Children: Hero Toolkit in Support of Heroic Grieving Children and Teens

https://indd.adobe.com/view/5229bd5d-3bbe-460d-9558-e3fcdd327194

Doughy Center for Grieving Children:

https://www.dougy.org/

Cinnamon Roll Sunday: A Child’s Story of Anticipatory Grief:

https://www.amazon.com/Cinnamon-Roll-Sunday-Childs-Anticipatory/dp/1519356854/